Telling Lies?

The lying game

Situations, reasons and consequences compel us to lie. Either we are fearful or want to avoid a sticky situation we take the aid of an easy way out by twisting the truth a bit and breathing instant relief. We do it for many reasons, some get away with it and then there are those who display certain signs that give away a lie.

Before I point out those little clues which people give away while lying one should not over look the reasons that supersede a situation. It’s easier to bulldoze a person without being a good listener. Chances are if you are tough on a penetrative investigation by cornering someone there can be higher incentives for them to lie all over again.

The truth about lying is that we all hate being lied to; we may do it ourselves but the realization that our trust has been broken or we were thought too naïve to believe a falsehood can not only be enraging but can also be hurtful.  There can be long periods of resentment that can leave an ugly imprint of skepticism that may take forever to whitewash.

Lying may not always have a reason some people develop a chronic habit which can get out of control, getting an adrenaline rush or getting kicks out of a situation can all too fast become an addiction. Such pathological lying ultimately becomes a disease which needs to be cured.

However does honesty always prove to be the best policy? I could stress upon it and self aggrandize my position by saying that yes it is, but would that not result in a single focus on my own opinions without a reasoned thought? When we are often blunt with unrestrained commentary to our thoughts do we not place ourselves into a position where we believe we alone have all the answers? We may know the real truth but without lacking a room for some compassion do we not distance ourselves away from purging out the cause for it?

However for chronic liars here are some give-aways which should be looked out for if your doubts are being raised for an avoidable disaster:

1.       Liars pause while interrogated with a simple direct query.

2.       They take away eye contact and fail to establish a steady eye connection.

3.        A person who is lying is known to touch their face especially the nose.

4.       Looking away, or up could mean they are tapping into their imagination.

5.       They avoid direct answers and may change the subject.

These are some very basic signs to read, one must not however jump all to fast to come to a conclusion, a simple confrontation might allow the person to come clean. One can also confirm their suspicions by asking more questions and imply politely is the truth could be one of the possibilities. So watch out for these lie detectors and understand that even though people may be hiding some secrets ultimately the truth gets out there.